Birds of a Feather Flock Together

Remember, you are the company you keep.

“Birds of a feather flock together”. I am sure you have heard that saying at some point in your life but do you really know what it means? It means you truly are the company you keep.

You see, it is extremely important to realize that you can only be as good as the people you surround yourself with on a daily basis. Athletes hang out with athletes. Alcoholics drink away their problems with other alcoholics. Businessmen associate with businessmen. The list goes on an on.

It becomes paramount that you realize the power of having a positive attitude and becoming a “light worker” amidst the chaos that surrounds you every day. You must also realize that the people you surround yourself with are equally as important with your life goals as the efforts that you put into achieving them. As the saying goes – “Like Attracts Like”. What this means is that whether you are positive or negative in your daily dealings, you will be sure attract others in your similar situation or mindset.

If you surround yourself with people who complain all the time, judge other people, dismiss or break the rules, spread gossip, ridicule others, place blame, or act like a victim then chances are that you do all of these things as well – perhaps without even realizing it.

Evaluate The Company You Keep

Take a look at your friends, family, and others whom you surround yourself with most. What are they constantly doing? Are they high achievers? Are they religious? Are they positive? Do they support your goals and ambitions or are they naysayers constantly bringing you down with negativity? Do they constantly complain about their lives and their situation?

If you spend too much time around negative, victimized, “bring-you-down” kind of people who fail to consistently support you or your goals it is time to seriously analyze what value they add to your life and begin to clean things up a bit. Look at who you call true friends and begin to start networking with and getting to know people who are more inline with your values or what you wish to achieve.

Success Follows Success

Successful people always keep those in company who are successful and maintain a positive vision and quickly discard those individuals who are negative or add little to no value to their lives or projects. Successful people like to be around those who go after their ambitions and pursue what drives them most and in many cases love to share success secrets and gain insights from likeminded people. A successful person will never be embarrassed by the company they keep because quite simply, they network with and build relationships with good company.

This means that starting right now you should begin to seek out those of good, likeminded company. It does not matter what background or past you may have, or how much money you have in the bank right now – take Nike’s advice and “Just Do It”. Successful people have good intuition and if what you have in your heart matches the drive in your eyes, they will notice – and they will take a liking to you. Plain and simple.

Join some clubs or organizations that breed success. Visit a few success seminars to get a feel for what success truly is. Success is not something reserved just for those with the right amount of money, credentials, or family backgrounds – it is a state of mind that is readily available for all.

However, regardless of your conditions or goals in life, you will NEVER get there by consistently hanging out with negative energy drainers. These vampiric individuals love people that try to be positive because they simply get pleasure out of sucking the life out of them – thus bringing them down to their level.

Eliminate Negative Influences

Starting now, make a list of all that you associate with in your life and briefly think about their state of being. Are they negative? Do they support your goals? What value do they add to your life? Are they successful? Do they complain? Do they play the victim role? When you are around them, do you feel joy and uplifted or do you leave their company feeling down and generally depressed? This simple exercise will give you power – the power to acknowledge who you have been hanging around and empowered to do something about it! You are better off being alone and by yourself than surrounded by the company of negative, powerless individuals.

Now is the time to set new standards for yourself. Now is the time to examine your relationships – professional, casual, and emotional. This rule also applies to your spouse or significant other. If they spend more time bringing you down and do not add much value to your life – get rid of them! Trust me, the short term alimony payments, emotional adjustments, or divorce attorneys will cost you much less than the price you are already paying for their presence!

YOU Have Control

Remember, you have control over virtually all areas of your life and the decisions you make today will impact your future. If you have been spending time surrounded by negativity you can begin to change this right now! Simply stop hanging around those who influence you in a negative way. Stop returning those phone calls and text messages. Send filters to put their emails right into your trash can. Remove them from Facebook. Then, do not look back. Immediately begin looking for organizations, clubs, and new groups of people to begin charging yourself up with things more positive.

Make that conscious effort to surround yourself with uplifting, nourishing people – people who believe in you – people who support your goals and encourage you to go after your dreams. Trust me, they are out there. All you need to do is open your eyes and focus on finding them and what you will find is that “coincidences” or synchronous events will begin to occur in your daily life and when they do – it is your responsibility to initiate the connection and form the new relationship.